It is with great sorrow to let everyone know that as of today 11th July 2010, my wife of nearly 30 years and I are entering into a three month period of trial separation. This does not mean the end of our marriage. We ask for prayer at this time and are trying our best during these three months to work at core issues that are straining our marriage.
My failures in 1996 is public knowledge to all and I take responsibilities for that which nearly destroyed our family. We sought refuge in Australia in 1997 and managed to rebuild our family life away from the public eye. We did everything we could to rebuild our lives and to a certain extent succeeded, raising two beautiful and lovely children, and re-establishing our family life spirit, soul and body.
With the onset of a more public life since 2008, there have been additional pressures added to the family life. While the family life has been stable living a private life, the pressures of a public life including the frequent travel to do the work of the ministry began to put pressures and strains on our family life.
Lest anyone say a cruel word regarding my wife, Amy, I want all to know that she has been an extraordinary woman of faith and courage to marry me. She has played a part of me being who I am today. Like every young couple, we had struggled through our own imperfections and weaknesses; she has borne a large portion of the pain and sufferings of my personal growth spiritually and in the ministry. I know she would receive a great reward in eternity for all that she has input into my life and made me who I am in the Lord.
She has bravely borne the pain and the burdens with me through the valleys of life and ministry. For this she is to be commended and encouraged. It has taken an extraordinary person like her to have lasted that long with me in life and in ministry in the Lord. The toil and toll of the ministry life has been greatly borne by her without complaint.
She has put up with my idiosyncrasies, my unearthly schedules, my need of time with God, my habits and my ways of doing things. It would have taken a supernatural infusion of the Lord’s strength and love to have lasted with me these thirty years. I cannot have asked for a more understanding companion than that which the Lord has provided for me these thirty years.
If there is any failure in our marriage, all the responsibilities lie with me and not with her.
We ask for prayer during this time.
Dear Pastor,
No matter where you go, what you do, when you do, or even why you do anything, know from the bottom of our hearts that we, your Spiritual Children, will pray for you and the Lord WILL answer.
Remember this:
We that LOVE you are more than those that don’t.
Your Spiritual Children
Postscript: We all, without doubt, embrace Amy with the Love of the Lord and pray that the Love the Father has for her may envelop her at this time. If is dear to your life, then she is dear to our lives.
Did Christ condemn the lady whom the people brought to Him to be stoned?
Did not God warned about the lust of man for the women during the fall of man?
Did not also God said that “Let us make a helper for the man”?
Did God condemn Peter because he denied Chirst not once but 3 times within the hour?
Did David kill Saul or was David with Saul till the end?
Have we become like the pharisees. “We are fair you see, but we we do not sin! but you who have sinned should be stoned to death” Are we the same hypocrites.
Do we abandon our family or rally together to build it stronger?
We will indeed pray for you and Amy — that Prov 16:3 (Amp) would be operative and overcoming! Blessings and Love in the Lord, Sandra
My Dearest Pastor Tan,
I’ve just read the latest update in your blog about your marriage issue with Pastor Amy. Just want to let you know that you two have my prayers and love. There is absolutely no condemnation and I also want to assure you that no matter what may happen in life, you have my love and prayers. I want to express my gratitude again to all that you have done in the Lord and for the ministry, my life is forever changed by your ministry and life example in the Lord. Thank you. And I’m sure Pastor Amy is the great woman and wife that you have mentioned in the blog, I’m also grateful for that.
I’m praying for you and the family. Please take heart and know that you are greatly, greatly, loved, always. May the grace, love, mercy, encouragement, comfort, favor, support, and strength of the Lord be in you, Amy, and the family, always and always.
Much love in Jesus.
Yes, our prayer and love with you always, may Lord comfort and strenthen and encourage you , Amy and whole family while in hard time.
Just read the latest update because I keep coming here always. Thanks for sharing with us on what is going on in your lives. My husband and I will lift you up before the Lord for our Lord is faithful. The God of the Red sea is also of the Jordan river, he saw you through those years back and He is the same today. You will triumph and we are encouraged by your teachings. Thankx for being our teacher, in words and practical life. We love you Pastors Peter and Amy
Writing from Penang. Yes we love you Ps Peter and Ps Amy & family. Thank you for your love for us, your spiritual children. Our prayer team are, have and will be in constant prayer for you and Ps Amy. Months back we did recd to pray for Ps Amy and on 21 June in the morning, a word from the LORD that “We (church people) are touched by his love (Ps Peter’s) for us”. May God’s great love, grace, strength, comfort, goodness, kindness continue be with you & Ps Amy. Please know that both you & Ps Amy have our church people full support and faithfulness. God bless.